The question is…can sleeping, especially during the infant stages be considered a skill? The answer is a big, fat NO. Sleeping is a biological function, as are our other bodily functions that come naturally. So the more specific areas of concern lie in the amount of sleep verses waking time and the frequency. We were created in such a wonderful way that our body brings many chemicals together to create the wonderful world of sleep. So any lack of that balance may be cause for concern which includes man made disturbances such as artificial lighting.
- Importantly though, it’s rare for someone to actually sleep all night without arousals. Sometimes we get up for a glass of water or to go the bathroom; sometimes we just arouse briefly.
- Most parents are worried about more frequent wakings or difficulties falling asleep. There are two main considerations here and neither of them has to do with treating sleep as a skill to be taught.
- Our younger ones wake more frequently and after shorter periods and may even have longer awake periods during the night. These can be completely, 100% normal.
“Sleeping is a biological function, the same as eating, breathing, procreating, and so on. It is something we are born doing and we can do it without much thought. You don’t actively teach your newborn to sleep – they do it on their own and for many hours of the day.”