Parents who maintain too much control over their kids’ lives may limit their ability to manage things themselves in the future. A better approach is to become your child’s “consultant” rather than their “manager,” which will help them develop a stronger sense of agency and initiative. This will help them to find the balance between being a compulsive over-achiever on one hand, or drifting aimlessly on the other. While this kind of parenting isn’t always easy or stress-free, it does give your child more of a chance to develop the skills needed to effectively run his or her own life.
- Many parents feel the urge to take control of their children’s lives and the college admissions scandal is a testimony to that fact.
- When parents think that their children cannot handle their lives themselves and interfere in it, they are giving them a wrong message.
- When kids feel so little control in their lives, they begin to have depression and anxiety so they need to be given that control.
“But an ultra-hands-on approach can have devastating consequences when it comes to a child’s mental health and ability to thrive.”