Have I Trained My Child To Demand Bribes?

Two kids in, my husband and I are out of the “every mistake we make will ruin our children’s lives forever” stage and into the “Meh, when we mess up, it’s a teachable moment for all of us” mindset. It’s more rewarding for everyone involved, and hopefully helps our children to see that it’s okay to change their minds when they find they’re wrong.

Bribery is one of those things we’re always messing up and then fixing. An incentive here or there is can be very useful—to help establish a new routine, make unwelcome changes more palatable, or get through a difficult day. It can be easy to overdo it and teach our children to feel entitled to rewards, but luckily, it’s not so hard to undo with a little thought. Danielle Braff of Romper has gone straight to the parenting experts and has some excellent advice!

Key Takeaways

—Changing your child’s expectations has its roots in changing your own parenting behavior.

—Offer several acceptable choices to let your child feel more in-charge.

—A surprise treat given after good behavior doesn’t have the same negative long-term effect as a bribe.

—One-on-one time with a parent is always a fantastic reward.

Read more at https://www.romper.com/p/stuck-bribing-your-kids-heres-how-to-give-up-the-racket-15583118


Becky Patouhas, social media specialist, has been a babywearing educator since 2013. Her favorite part of her job is a tie between seeing all the cute baby pictures and helping parents get that “I can’t believe I can hold my baby AND eat!” moment. A first-generation American and mom of two small boys, she and her family live in Michigan, where she enjoys volunteering with her local babywearing group. Becky loves her Zypora meh dais (she has two!) because they’re so cushy on her shoulders. She always has a Lightly Padded ring sling in her purse because she loves the soft padding, and she thinks Isle of Skye is the best colorway out there!

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