Two kids in, my husband and I are out of the “every mistake we make will ruin our children’s lives forever” stage and into the “Meh, when we mess up, it’s a teachable moment for all of us” mindset. It’s more rewarding for everyone involved, and hopefully helps our children to see that it’s okay to change their minds when they find they’re wrong.
Bribery is one of those things we’re always messing up and then fixing. An incentive here or there is can be very useful—to help establish a new routine, make unwelcome changes more palatable, or get through a difficult day. It can be easy to overdo it and teach our children to feel entitled to rewards, but luckily, it’s not so hard to undo with a little thought. Danielle Braff of Romper has gone straight to the parenting experts and has some excellent advice!
—Changing your child’s expectations has its roots in changing your own parenting behavior.
—Offer several acceptable choices to let your child feel more in-charge.
—A surprise treat given after good behavior doesn’t have the same negative long-term effect as a bribe.
—One-on-one time with a parent is always a fantastic reward.
Read more at https://www.romper.com/p/stuck-bribing-your-kids-heres-how-to-give-up-the-racket-15583118